Selfcare, what does it actually mean to you? To take care of you, care for the body, the inner space of the mind and soul.
Who is the one caring?
And where did it all go awry even though you started out with a good intention?
Many people struggle with continuity, whether it might be in keeping the body fit or owning up to your resolutions around standing up and sharing your authenticity at work.
Why is this?
Why are so many of us programmed to self-sabotage when we are real close to creating change?
Wherever you may fail it stems from the same core.
It has to do with attachment, maybe it served you, actually it might have saved your life playing small and not speaking up when you were forming the first bonds to the world outside, to your caregivers.
Maybe it could have something to do with the needs of belonging and security.
Maybe it has to do with shame.
The small child will adapt to her surroundings even if it means giving up parts of herself in the process. Meaning that the child will learn to disconnect from her own authentic impulses to maintain a sense of connection to the primary attachment figures.
Whatever the cost.
And the side effects of these early formed strategies will inevitably show up in your day to day life in a myriad of ways.
Some of the ways it can show up is in not being able to finish projects, to find continuity or balance in your life and relationships.
There are ways to reshape our early programming to a more life serving approach, where you are able to choose differently now as an adult rather than the child you were.
Honour and validate your will to survive and allow a new space where you can actually thrive.
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